The Power Of Self-Love Spells Boost Your Confidence

The Power Of Self-Love Spells: Boost Your Confidence

A self-love spell allows you to care for yourself using everyday ingredients such as herbs, honey, flowers, water, jars, and candles. By performing a self-love spell, you’re giving yourself intentional and magical self-care. With a bit of witchcraft, you can deeply connect with yourself to build a strong and transformative sense of self-love.

This article will show you how you can make your own DIY self-love spell. If you’d like more guidance, I also included 3 simple self-love spells (jar, bath, and candle) to help boost your self-worth and allow you to be more compassionate toward yourself.

Please note that I make every effort to ensure this information is correct and accurate through my own experiences and referencing sources throughout AND at the bottom of this article.

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How to Make a DIY Self-Love Spell

Making a self-love spell is a way to connect with YOUR inner self to boost your confidence.

I’ll walk you through choosing the right ingredients, creating a sacred space, and casting your spell to attract true devotion to yourself.

Choosing the Right Ingredients

Consider each element’s magical properties when choosing ingredients for your self-love spell. Remember to consider your specific intentions and choose ingredients that resonate with them. Trust your intuition when choosing the ingredients that feel right for you.

Here are some common ingredients and their correspondences**. This is not an exhaustive list; they’re just the ones I use


  • Blackberry: Used for healing
  • Cinnamon: Brings luck, healing, love, and protection
  • Lavender: Promotes happiness, peace, and love
  • Eucalyptus: Also used for healing
  • Catnip: Attracts love and happiness
  • Thyme: Helps maintain health
  • Saffron: Brings happiness
  • Marjoram: Promotes happiness
  • Chamomile: Attracts love
  • Peppermint: Used for healing and love

PECULIAR TIP – If you feel overwhelmed, simply make some tea using any corresponding herbs. You’ll be infusing your body with love, happiness, and healing intentions. Plus, you’ll be drinking more water. It’s a win-win! Find a cute cup to drink it from for more fun!


  • Coconut oil: Used for protection and purification.
  • Olive oil: It brings healing, peace, and potency.
  • Sweet almond oil: Associated with wisdom and prosperity, great for self-love and healing.


  • Orange Fluorite: Enhances self-love and combats negative energy.
  • Rose Quartz: Compassion and unconditional love
  • Topaz: Promotes generosity, gratitude, and love.
  • White Jade: Promotes self-love, spiritual connection, and illumination.

Creating Your Sacred Space

Creating a sacred space for your spellwork or ritual is crucial for focusing your energy and intentions. This space is your personal sanctuary where you can be your true self and connect with your unique spiritual energy.

Before you begin any spell, remove negative energy from your sacred space using the cleansing method of your choice. You can do this by burning a smoke cleanser, listening to music, chanting, Moon Water, singing, or simply opening the windows to let fresh air in.

Additional Suggestions for Creating a Sacred Space

  • Choose a quiet and comfortable area where you won’t be disturbed.
  • Decorate your space with meaningful items like crystals, decorations, sentimental items, candles, or plants.
  • Use soft lighting, such as candles or colored lights (for the vibe 😉)
  • Play soothing music or sounds, such as nature sounds or chanting, to enhance the spiritual energy of your space. I like to wear headphones and play the music that makes me happy. (All bangers all the time) If you’re able, feel free to sing and dance along!
  • Set up a small altar to place your spell ingredients and tools
  • Always wear clothing that makes you feel comfortable and confident in your sacred space.
Creating a Sacred Space for Your Self-Love Spell

Self-Love Spell Chant

Chanting is a powerful way to focus your energy during spellwork. Chanting helps you connect with your intentions, allowing you to infuse your spell with greater power and purpose. Affirmations are a form of chanting and can be particularly effective in self-love spells. They can help reprogram your subconscious mind and create a more positive self-image.

This study found repeating a word decreased brain activity, especially in the part of the brain that’s closely associated with the “Self.” This might explain why repeating a mantra or affirmation can calm and relax people.

Create your own chant or affirmation by using things you love about yourself and any accomplishments you’ve achieved, even if they feel small or happened a long time ago. This will help you overcome negative self-talk and create a more positive self-image. Here are some ideas to help get you started:

  • From head to toe, I love me so, my worth and value continue to grow.
  • With each breath, I feel the power, of self-love blooming like a flower
  • In my heart, I hold the key, to love myself, completely free
  • I am strong, I am kind, self-love fills my heart and mind
  • In my heart, I plant the seed, self-love grows, it’s all I need
  • With every breath, I love me more, my spirit strong, my heart restored

Prepare Your Spell

At this point, make sure you’ve gathered all the ingredients you’ll need for the self-love spell. Clarify your intention for the spell. Make sure all preparations are finished so you can start the spell or ritual. Keep reading below for 3 love spells!

Focus on the specific aspect of self-love you wish to enhance or manifest. Clear your mind of distractions and focus on your intention. Visualize the outcome you desire as if it has already happened.

Activate Your Spell

Activating your self-love spell is the process of releasing the energy you’ve created, allowing it to manifest in your life.

When you feel the energy has peaked, release it into the universe to manifest your intention. Visualize it flowing into you.


After releasing the energy, express gratitude to the universe, your deities, or whatever higher power you believe in. Thank them for assisting you in manifesting your intentions.

To maintain the energy of your spell, regularly repeat your affirmation or mantra.

Trust that your spell is working, even if you don’t see immediate results. Sometimes, the universe works in mysterious ways, and the effects of your spell may manifest gradually.

Be open to receiving signs and messages from the universe that your spell is working. These signs may come in the form of synchronicities, intuitive insights, or changes in your circumstances.

Closing Ritual in How to Make a DIY Self-Love Spell

Popular Self-Love Spell Types

In this section, I’ll show you three popular types of self-love spells: jar spells, bath spells, and candle spells.

Feel free to modify them to suit your spiritual practice and preferences.

Self-Love Spell Jar Necklace

Spell Jars are containers filled with spiritual intentions and various ingredients, such as herbs, crystals, small items, etc. They hold the spell’s energy and are easy to move. These simple charms are also known as Witches’ Bottles.

You’ll wear this Self-Love Spell Jar on a necklace close to your heart.

Gather Your Supplies

  • Vial necklace (like this heart-shaped one)
  • Dried Rose Petals (for love, healing, protection, and luck)
  • Dried Lavender Buds (for love, happiness, sleep, and peace)
  • Crystal Chips of your choice
  • Small funnel or tweezers (for filling the vial)
  • A pink ribbon (optional: use as a chain for added self-love energy)

Prepare Your Spell Jar

Begin by removing negative energy from your vial necklace and ingredients by cleansing them in the method of your choice.

Set Your Intention

Find a quiet space where you can focus without interruptions. Hold the heart-shaped vial in your hands, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Visualize the vial filling with warm, loving energy.

Set your intention for self-love, healing, and happiness. Say a simple affirmation of your choice. Here are a few ideas to help get you started:

  • From within, my love does flow, in self-love, I always grow
  • Each moment, I choose to see, the beauty and love inside of me
  • I am kind, I am true, loving myself in all I do
  • I am worthy of love, happiness, and peace. This vial reminds me of my inner strength and beauty

Begin the Self-Love Spell Jar

Carefully place the gold leaf flakes or crystal chips of your choice into the bottom of the vial. Use the funnel or tweezers if needed. Visualize them creating a solid foundation of good luck and positive energy at the base of your vial.

Next, add the dried lavender while imagining its soothing energy filling your heart and mind. Finally, add the rose petals while feeling its energy surround you with a gentle, loving embrace. It protects your heart and fills it with warmth and compassion.

I like to whisper my intention into the vial while it’s still open. Feel free to add a petition paper if you can fit one! Once all the ingredients have been added, close the self-love spell jar.

Activate the Spell

Hold the completed vial necklace in your hands and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and visualize your loving self-love energy surrounding the vial.

Concentrate on moments in time when you felt your most happy and loved. Continue infusing the vial with your intentions to make a powerful talisman of self-love and positivity.

Wear Your Necklace

Put on your self-love necklace and wear it close to your heart. Hold the vial and repeat your affirmation whenever you need a boost of self-love or a reminder of your worth.

Self Love Spell Jar Necklace

A Bath Spell for Self-Love

This customizable bath ritual is designed to help you connect deeply with your body and spirit. It cleanses away negativity and fills you with positive, loving energy.

Remember, only you know the best path to true self-love. Use this guide as a starting point, then personalize it to your specific requirements and tastes. Let every step be a slow, deliberate act of love and care for yourself.

Preparing Your Sacred Space

  • Gather Your Supplies: Collect everything you’ll need for your bath or shower, including beauty products like a bath bomb, bubble bath, face mask, scalp scrubber, crystals, herbs, oils, and lotions. Don’t forget your favorite food and drink to enjoy during the ritual. It’s about indulging in your favorites!
  • Create the Ambiance: Set the mood with ambiance lighting using candles, fairy lights, or colored lights. Play your favorite music, audiobook, or podcast to enhance the experience. (Witch Tip – Burn your DIY self-love ritual candle using the Candle Spells for Self-Love directions in the next section)
  • Set Your Intention: Before you begin, take a moment to set your intention for the ritual. What do you hope to achieve? Whisper or write down your intention to focus your mind.

Drawing the Bath (or Preparing the Shower)

  • Run the Water: Fill your bathtub with warm water or adjust your shower to a comfortable temperature.
  • Add Luxurious Elements: Add a bath bomb (or shower bomb), or anything else you chose to the water. If you’re looking for suggestions, try scents and ingredients that promote relaxation and self-love, such as lavender, rose, or vanilla.
  • Prepare Your Space: Lay out your towels, robe, loofahs, washcloths, slippers, oils, lotions, and other items you’ll need nearby. Arrange your favorite food and drink within easy reach.

Begin the Self-Love Spell

  • Begin the Ritual: Enter the bath slowly, feeling the warmth of the water envelop you, or step into the shower and let the water cascade over you.
  • Nourish Your Skin: Use beauty products to enhance your self-love experience after cleansing. Apply face masks, hair treatments, or body scrubs. Take this time to soak and relax, fully immerse yourself, and enjoy the textures and scents. Enjoy your favorite food and drink!

Cleansing and Releasing Negativity

  • Mindful Cleansing: Wash and scrub every part of your body deliberately, including often-neglected areas like behind your ears and around your ankles (similar to an egg cleanse). As you cleanse, visualize any negative energy, anxiety, shame, or guilt being washed away too.
  • Repeat Your Affirmation: While you wash away the negativity, repeat a personal mantra or affirmation. Examples include:
    • With love and grace, I fill this space; my heart is light, and my spirit bright
    • Radiant and true, in all that I do, my soul shines bright and full of light
    • Strength in my stride, love as my guide, I am whole, in body and soul
    • In peace I dwell, all is well, my soul is free, flowing like the sea

Final Bath Spell Steps

  • Dry Off Gently: Pat your skin dry with a soft towel. Take your time, enjoying the sensation.
  • Moisturize Mindfully: Apply your favorite-smelling lotion to every inch of your body. Caress your skin slowly, allowing your hands to glide over your body. Feel every lovely curve and angle.
  • Express Gratitude: As you moisturize, focus on your love and gratitude for your sacred body. It’s so beautiful and always tries to take good care of you. Your brain and body are always trying to keep you safe. Repeat affirmations such as:
    • I love and appreciate my body.
    • My body is beautiful and strong.
    • I am grateful for my body and all it does for me.


Take a few moments to bask in the glow of your ritual and feel the love and positivity from within you. Cherish and honor yourself for the wonderful being you are. This ritual can be repeated whenever you need a reminder of your worth, strength, and beauty.

A Bath Spell for Self-Love

Candle Spells for Self-Love

Candle magic is a popular choice for self-love rituals because it’s simple and has incredible results. I created a step-by-step Pink Self Love Candle Spell tutorial to help you find love and strength from within.

If you want to create your own candle spell, choose a candle type that best suits your intentions. Popular choices are chime candles, votives, and tea lights. If you’re a beginner witch and need more help, check out my YouTube video, Simple Candle Magic—Beginner Basics.

Consider choosing a candle color that aligns with self-love. Popular choices are pink (empathy, sensitivity, and emotional love), white (reduces anxiety and brings calming peace), and red (stamina, passion, and fearlessness).

Dress your candle with any oils, symbols, or herbs of your choice. For a step-by-step tutorial, check out this video: How To Cleanse and Dress a Spell Candle. You’ll have a powerful candle for self-love magic when you’re done!

I hope this self-love spell article was helpful! Lots of love to you, and remember, as always…

stay peculiar


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